Why is it important to talk about sex? Sex can be a source
of issues within a marriage, but it can also be a source of great joy and
connection. It is of course how children are brought into the world and
understanding it better yourself can help you better educate you children. One
thing I hope to strongly emphasize is that sex is something sacred that is God
given. It is a way to connect with your spouse in a way that can’t be done by any
other means. When done in the right way, at the right time, it is not dirty,
but a wonderful tool given to us as humans on earth.
Like before mentioned, sex is something that we are
given to help husband and wife to draw closer together. It allows us to connect
in a really beautiful way to our spouses and allows for a time for us to feel
close to each other, warm, and gives us a sense of safety. Husband and wife should
show tremendous generosity toward one another during this time. It is important
to provide a place for you spouse to feel close, warm, and safe. This is a time
to show vulnerability to one another to create an even stronger bond. It is also
a time to be kind and thoughtful toward one another. This is something that holds
much more meaning than thinking of yourself and fulfilling yourself. It is so
much more than that. It is an expression of love that bonds two people together
like nothing else in this world can.
That being said, that bond should never be violated.
There is nothing more important in this world than your spouse and the bond
that the two of you have. It is so important that sexual matters are NOT discussed
with anyone but your spouse. When conversation ensues about something that is
so private and meant to stay between two people that isn’t your spouse, you run
the chance of creating a relationship with someone that can be very harmful is
already on the path to crossing a very serious boundary. Feelings might develop
for that other person (male or female, it does not matter) and it could lead to
a place that can have very serious consequences.
Infidelity is something that plagues this generation
like no other and it is heart breaking to see. Infidelity comes in many forms,
fantasies such as pornography, attaching emotionally to someone who is not your
spouse, confiding in someone outside of your marriage about intimate details in
your life. The list sadly goes on and on. Infidelity brings the most bitter heartache
anyone can experience in this life. If you find yourself engaging in any kind of
infidelity, STOP. It is, in my opinion, never an option to fall out of love. It
is not simply something that is gone. It is usually a string of choices made
that makes you feel that way. It is a choice.
Sex is something that a loving Heavenly Father gave to
us as a wat to connect with another person in ways we didn’t even know or
understand was possible. It is something that is extremely sacred between two
people that creates a place of love, generosity, and kindness. It creates
closeness, warmth and safety with another person that is so special beyond
measure. It is key, however, to keep boundaries solid with others outside of
your marriage to avoid creating feelings toward another person and to risk infidelity.
Run the other way if you find yourself in this situation. It isn’t worth the
heartache and the sadness.
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